I promised to consider this but having done that kind of cr*p for years and the effect that it had on me/us & our marriage it is just NOT an option.
Then you tell her it's not an option! It's not taking the pressure off her.....it's enabling her to have an A.
This stuff she says about her kids is something every mother in the world could say, but they don't take a vaccation from being a parent! To try and make the kids look as guilty as she is...just shows how selfish a WAS can become.
I know it probably doesn't make sense for you to tell her this, but I suggest you deal with her from a different angle. Make her think that you time for you to have a life of your own (and you do), instead of looking like the dedicated father who never does anything but work and be with his D. Even though those are worthy qualities, it won't win her back as much as if she thinks you are finding your own happiness without her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
