Am I on the right track?

[NEmoose43]

Sandi, thank you for your suggestions about how to respond to her inquiries. I hadn't really thought of it in that way. I do see that she's trying to keep me interested so to speak.

As to invites and planning things and making myself available...please note that I have NOT said or mentioned ANY of these ideas to my wife yet, I'm just sounding them out here. I agree that she was very non-specific about tomorrow, and as I mentioned above, I didn't press her on that at all.

25, we actually did buy the tickets together. We went to see this band together about 6 months ago and W fell in love with them. She noticed online that they were coming back to town and asked me if we should get tickets. I know that she really does not want to miss this concert, which is the only reason why I brought it up.

I know that the tone of the paragraph I wrote about the concert made it seem like I was expecting to go with her tomorrow night, but please don't ignore the paragraphs above it. I feel like I've turned a corner today. And keep in mind that I have NOT initiated any of the contact since the confrontation on Wednesday, and I have kept the R talk out of ALL of our interactions...which is my #1 goal for what to continue going forward. My DB coach has told me that I need to walk the tightrope maintaining our connection while not falling into pressuring and pleading. And I know you all can see that in my posts. I'm really working at this guys, I am, and I am not holding my phone constantly hoping it will vibrate. I am a work in progress.

And God help me, I know I'm too nice and too trusting, but part of me still wants to take her at her word. I know, I know, don't believe anything they say...but it's so hard not to when I love her so much.