when he comes over to see her, why don't you go out to one of your GAL activities? And be upbeat and excited about it too. MAYBE even a tad mysterious...Must you be there, at all his visits? I'd be scarce, but I'd look and be at my BEST, and then I'd be in a rush to GAL elsewhere...when you return, you are refreshed and excited but mysterious..."just finished laughing..." etc...
I'm still not clear on why your claim that the IUD made you depressed, makes the OW more attractive to h. What?? Forget the IUD. Are you saying you were mistreating him and she's not? Okay...If so, then you need to really counter those negative reasons he had that justified leaving, with contrasting images. IF he said you were controlling then you become THE cool wife... Nothing fazes you, you are so easy going...make sense??? Don't fuel the negatives. BEFORE you say something (NO R talk from you!!) ask yourself if you'll be getting any closer to your goals by saying it...and be honest. IF a comment has NEVER before gotten a good response, why would it the 637th time you say it?
I'd stop talking abput the hormones or IUD and just own that you mistreated him, and that it's not a problem anymore. After all, a problem being worked on, is no longer a problem... (I just think it sounds like an excuse, and blaming, even if there is some medical truth to it. )
good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Nothing fazes you, you are so easy going...make sense??? Don't fuel the negatives. BEFORE you say something (NO R talk from you!!) ask yourself if you'll be getting any closer to your goals by saying it...and be honest. IF a comment has NEVER before gotten a good response, why would it the 637th time you say it?