Am I on the right track?

[sandi2]

First, I wanted to clear up something you may have misunderstood.

Sandi, thank you for dropping that on me. I really do appreciate your perspective and I do understand where you're coming from, but this woman has treated me like a son, and I want to do this for her, not for W.

I did not mean to suggest that you not go to see your MIL this weekend. I was pointing out what your W is doing and why she wants you to go to her mom's. My guess is that her mother doesn't know the story.

Next, I've noticed that your W has this way of keeping you on your toes by telling you she'll call later or come down the next day, etc. I suggest that you be thinking of things that you can say in response that will cause her to realize that you are thinking like a "single" man and she no longer can take you for granted. Let some of her calls go to VM. Don't tell her you're going to be home later in the evening or all day on Saturday. You are a busy and popular man. I would also suggest that you invite a friend to go see that performance instead of asking your W along.

Here something that scares the LBH. He sees what he's done wrong in the past and now he wants to do all those things he wasn't doing earlier. He's afraid to detach or turn her invitation down and go out to GAL. He thinks that will push her away. Wrong! Pursuing is what will push her away. Being too easy for her to get back whenever she wants, will push her away. Not be a strong, attractive, independent man, will push her away. At this point in your stitch, you really need to get her interested in you and what you are doing in your life. Be interesting! Be mysterious! Do you want to know how? All it takes is for her not knowing every detail of every second of your day. That's all.


((hugs))