WAW Please Help Me.

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Zero, thanks for the reply.

An example of the controlling behavior:

She did tell me that she would alway wait to the last minute to tell me about any plans the girls would make so as to not have to deal with my "reaction." She stated that at the end she could only tolerate an instant of my pouting, not days of it( That is an exaggeration). She stated that girls would ask when she would plan something and that she would always back off thinking that if I found out she planned it that I would have a "reaction." Now this "reaction" is probably defined as: "pouting." Never did I say "do not go" or "stay home."

So on this point she is probably correct. I could see where it would be irritating, but not to the point of divorce. Also, it never stopped her from going anywhere or doing anything. She never sat down with me and said if you don't stop doing X (insert any of her examples of my "controlling" behavior) our relationship is at risk (or anything to that effect). So I had no idea that this was effecting her as profoundly as it has.

Our lives were not separate. We always did things together. We were always affectionate toward each other. Were intimate frequently (3-4 times per week). I my opinion no problem in that department. I even asked her about that when the bomb was dropped and she said that intimacy was not at all related to what was going on. She was "completely satisfied" in that department.

On another note: She has always had very significant mood changes during her period. She would go from easy going to crazy and back again in an instant. Now she seems like she is in a constant state of emotional funk (listing dramtically toward "crazy").

She called me last night, had a meltdown. Said we were not going to mediation(among other things). Called me this morning apologized profusely and asked if I would consider mediation. Said she was sorry for being so emotional, etc, etc. I do not know what is going on but she is definately going through something.

I love this women but I cannot continue on this course. I am preparing myself for a divorce that I do not want. I do not know what to do.