Before.....This [censored] so bad. She will barely speak to me wont look at me. I cant touch her...she is repulsed by me. Just not sure this is something I think we can overcome, no matter how bad I want it just doesnt seem like she does. I started pricing apt. online today. Not sure how I am going to pull this off plus child support now. UGH....help
Chris, I would suggest that you not discuss the stitch with her at this time. Obviously, she has very strong issues about anyone who cheats. She probably vowed she'd never live with a man like her father. So, you've got to back way off and give her time to deal with things. She's feeling a tide of various emotions, I would think, and can't be expected to heal in a few days.
You want her to forgive you and assure you that she will give the M another chance. Fear does not look attractive on a man. He can be as guilty as sin, but he can't wear that kind of fear and expect his W to be attracted to him. If she forgives you, she'll do it when she is ready and all the begging in the world will not rush her. In fact, I would think it could hinder if you persist in trying to get her to forgive and give you another chance.
You know how DB works. No begging, pleading, clinging, neediness, etc. You have asked for her forgiveness so now you have to stand up and start working on "you". The fact that you cheated does not change the DB techniques. You want her to love you and desire to live with you as your W for the rest of her life. Be the best you can be in drawing/attracting her to that reformed man.
What are the plans for this weekend?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
She doesnt want me to leave the home and wants me to sleep in the same bed. She says that it is to keep things normal for the kids as long as possible.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I started pricing to get prepared after seeing the way she is acting towards me and trashing me to anyone who listen. Just thought it wise to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. I know I need to back off but things happened so fast my head is spinning still. I miss my best friend, I have no one to laugh with or talk to, I am treated like a disease or something she stepped in on the way to the car. This is so hard.....
I didnt tell her, the OW did and it was on 5/5/11. I know I need to man up for messin up. But wow I never seen her so cold, ever. I just don't think she is getting over this one.
