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[tadpole1025]

Thanks Kara and Shel.

I'm not sure what I will do this weekend. I've got to do something though. Mother's Day will probably be bad for me, but even worse for W seeing how our boys are all upset with her. So, should I tell her Happy Mother's Day?

My guess is no.

Right?

He said it was easier for him to be mean because it hurt him too much to think about what he was doing to me.

Wow. I never heard anything like this from W. She won't even open up to me.

My H told me one time after we separated that he was changed and didn’t know what was wrong with him.

I've told my W that she changed and became a different person overnight. Our sons have even told her that. She denies it and says she hasn't changed at all. I wish she could see it.

I know we’re spending WAY more time thinking about them than they are us. It’s our time to focus on ourselves. Not in their self-centered selfish way but in our own healing way.

Yes, I do think about her a lot, but it is getting less often.

Tad