Definitely. I really can't imagine her bringing it up right now, but in such an emotional state, who knows. If she does, I will try to politely tell her we have plenty of time to talk about us, right now, we need to focus on her and her family.
Sounds perfect man. Maybe it becomes a catalyst for her regarding your M, maybe it doesn't. And this is advice I know I need to give myself CONSTANTLY, but don't dwell on it and keep being yourself. Sounds like you're going to do fine.
Best of luck with the in-laws too. Remember that you're going to show your love and support for their family because of your FIL and what he meant to you...I'm sure they'll see that.
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11