Mission 25. I Really Mean it this time>

[ninelives]

Good one islander. Mission 9 indeed. That hits home.

I will follow 25's advice and do only something from the kids.We are going to simply buy her flowers. I will get her a card about her mother and how much she meant to me in my life and that is all.

No love signmatures, no expectations. Just being nice as 25 stated.

As she continues to be apart from our marriage, I want her to remember statments that she said in the past like

" you are the best, kindest person I know"

" You are such a good person, I am soo lucky I found you"

She has said things like that often and i got away from that person to her and became cold and some times mean.

If she finds it harder to walk away from a person like that, bonus, but even if she does , I want her to remember the real me.

A person that befriended alot of people and was kind and considerate. Not the bitter A hole that became a victim and played that role to a letter the last 6 months.

Just taking the high road. And yes everybody, I have a real difficult time with the OM , knowing who he is and where he came from. So this is my challenge and it wont be done overnight but I am going to work on it more.

Thanks again for all the input and the mild 2x4's.. I pray it gets through but nothing else is working for me on any level so maybe kindness, but not door mat behaviour will occur.

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