hmmm, what about showing him that this time the marriage, would be better and different? If so, how? (Otherwise you're both just doing the same old...)
I'll have to think on this.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
[color:#FF0000]Re: your other comments about the lack of passion and sex, have you felt that way about other men? The one you had the A with? I only ask to see if it's a low SD or more about your particular M...and you said he was also unfaithful? Was he very attracted to OW? Or are you more worried that he has a generalized idea of OWs and misses the passion you two lack and therefore, think he wants out?
I have felt that way with other people. I have a very high sex drive actually but I've never felt able to express it fully with my H. I think the OW showed him that he too can have that passion with someone else and that makes him realize it is missing from our R. However that didn't seem to matter for quite a while. He says he just knows it is not working here and therefore, we should move on. There's no waiting arms for him to jump into at this point.
