Seriously though, good for you!!! I only hope for your sake that she gets more comfortable and confident with you. Women who are that scared sometimes tend to become needy and must have constant reassurance. I have a friend who did that to her fiance. He finally had enough of it and headed for the hills while telling her to grow a backbone, find herself inside all of her insecurity, and let him know when she did. It was the wakeup call she needed. She was forced to focus on herself, found out that she loved running, started doing 5K's, branched out to 10K's and now runs marathons. She has more confidence now that just about any woman I've ever know.
Sometimes being faced with harsh reality isn't always a bad thing.
I'm just sayin'........watch it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Had a really good talk this evening... she really opened up about the conflict in her. And it's clear that she is trying to work through it. She was afraid of my reaction, and thanked me for being safe. And she felt a lot better afterwards. Nothing is for sure, we both know that, but I think we took a step in a good direction.
Didn't have work Friday. Had band practice in the afternoon into the evening, so I didn't see Kelly. But she must have had a slow morning at work... she texted something like... "Random thought, I want a poodle." She has had a poodle most of her life, but had given up her last one about five years ago while selling the house during/after her D. So, she sent some pics from rescue web sites, some ads, I told her it sounded like a good idea, and that I understood, since I had really wanted to have cats.
Anyway, Saturday she was going to go shopping in town (remembering we live an hour apart), and then we were going to meet to hang out and get my car from the shop. So, I was having lunch out with the kids, and she asked if she could stop by and say hi. Sure! So, she sat and talked with us, S13 was especially excited by the puppy talk. By then, she had changed her mind about clothes shopping, and was going to do some other shopping, and possibly stop at Petsmart to see if there were any adoptive poodles. So, we dropped the kids at home, and I went with her.
Before long, she had found a really interesting ad using her phone, and had arranged a visitation. We swung back around and picked up S13, and off we went. Long story short, came back with a new dog!
All of us went down to her house to play with the dog and have pizza, then way too late I drove home with S13 and S17.
Yesterday morning she texted and said I should come over and visit Emma (the dog)... though I don't think that was her actual plan! Spent some time there, went golfing while she rested. Stopped in again late in the afternoon, left before dinner so she could get ready to go to dinner with her D's boyfriend's family.
XW got off work early, so she picked up the boys for Mothers' day.
Very glad things seem to be back on solid footing for you and her. Sometimes episodes like what you went through tend to make the R that much stronger once you get through them.
