Of Men or of Angels

[MHL]

The Moose Hunter

MHL just so we're clear....Moose Whisperer... not hunter. I'm not a killer, these are my pets and my friends. LOL

I guess I should turn in my PETA card……….Venison steaks at my house tonight!!!! Wooo hooo!!

I know what my hesitation is.

I believe she has the ability to understand and make the right choice for herself. She is NOT doing that right now because of her crisis and the trauma of her childhood.

Sooooo, you wait for her to wake up and let’s say that we have a crystal ball and know that she is going to wake up tomorrow………

She wakes up, wants to reconcile, you are willing, you guys give it a try…………

Is her pain any less if she wakes up and is married still????

Is her pain any more if she wakes up and is divorced????

Is her pain your responsibility?????

BUT comes a day when she WILL see it for what it is. If it happens and I have moved on? I don't wish that pain on any one.

I don’t wish it on anyone either, and it is painful for me to watch someone else bring it on themselves.

However……

Her choices, her consequences, her feelings, her issues (even the PTSD and other stuff)

YOU cannot bear her CROSS for HER…….. ( Only HE can, and HE did )

You quote from 1 Corinthians 13 for your title. My voice quivers when I read it aloud, and it usually brings a tear to my eye, so I know it well as do most who come here seeking to restore their marriages.

The part for me that I cling to is ”Love never Fails,….” 1Corinthians 13:8

Has Love failed if we choose divorce????

I think NOT.

How can this be the truth in the case of divorce?

I did not have to stop Loving my XW in order to divorce her, the divorce was for me.

It is not a measure of my Love for my XW.

The Love for her is still there, I am learning to LIVE with that reality even as I am falling in Love with another woman.

I did the VERY best I could for my marriage, the last 2 years of my life are a SHINNING TESTIMONY to the LOVE for my XW.

Grit, your TIME, your PAIN, your JOURNEY are a SHINNING TESTIMONY to the Love you have for your Wife.

That kind of Love does not end when a Judge signs a piece of paper.

My Prayers are with you as you choose your path.

Cheers

~C