You are human and not a dirtbag. Cut yourself some slack. Did you continue the affair for long periods of time or was it a one time deal? Regardless, you have to forgive yourself before she can forgive you.
My W had an affair for a year, came back to me and continued her affair but I am now ready to forgive her. I have to if I have any chance of making this work. I LOVE HER, PERIOD.
Now you have to test your resolve. Do you love her enough to forginve yourself and then Divorce bust the best you can.
YOu cant KISS her A$$ but you also cant be a doormat because of your mistake. This is not healthy.
Reread the DR and start to follow those principles.
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