well if you are handling all this and she's simply not, then she has to see a professional. Don't ask her, take her. Or have HIM take her.
Also, I don't think it's necessary that you not show her ANY pain, b/c you do feel it and the thing is, she needs to know that you are in pain AND YET...you are healing yourself...as opposed to thinking it's all good. Are you watching chick flicks more? Seriously, that was one of the first fun things my d's and I did when h was gone. Tried to see the upside and you know, there WERE some...and then they got more important, and bigger, and we ended up making new routines that were fulfilling for us. Sometimes it made h feel out of place when he came to visit, but that's not my problem or responsibility. I wonder if your d can have her dad at home with her more, if she's so unhappy in his place? Why are you insisting that they go there?
Also, I am not clear why you say HE left b/c YOU were not happy, and now you are happy, and therefore...what?? Not clear for me.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
