Am I on the right track?

[♪CS♪]

OK, I finally got a chance to get away from my sitch, so watch out!

close... IMO though, a boundary that you are not willing to enforce is NOT a boundary. So essentially, a boundary IS an ultimatum.

OK Denver, I know this isn't even your thread, but that is some serious lawyer sh!t right there! English Mo-fo, do you speak it!!! jk

Im sorry to hit you with a 1x2 but she may be lying about the extent of her affair.

Moose, none of us know the truth of what is going on, but do ask yourself if you are ready to accept this reality. It is a real possibility. Many of us here have had to accept the same thing. So without asking, without knowing for sure. Can you move forward knowing that she had an A? I think the sooner you can answer that question, the better you will be going forward. Not trying to freak you out. Just be honest with yourself.

Faith, I'm a little confused here...are you talking about GAL stuff or are you suggesting I draw the proverbial line in the sand with her?

Same thing Denver said. What he is saying is (and I am paraphrasing someone else here, sorry that I don't remember who) "standing does not mean standing still." Wish in one hand sh!t in the other, see which one fills up first." Heard that phrase before? Don't wish, act! 180's, GAL, "As IF" etc. DB!

Here's what I really want to hear:

"Moose, I do still love you, and I'm willing to try to put us back together. I am afraid that it won't work and that you'll just go back to the way you were, but I'm willing to let you at least try to prove yourself to me again."

And while I'm on that, I want to write out what I'd love to see happen if everything worked out perfectly. I figure if I get it out here, I'll be less likely to open my mouth this weekend and blurt it all out to W. Here goes.

1) W comes home

2) We start seeing MC again, with W telling MC that she's willing to work on the M...which she was unable to do a month ago.

3) Date night once a week

Oh man. You just got as far as possible from "no expectations" with this one. If you go in with these thoughts.... Just don't, please. One thing 25 has been mentioning in many threads recently is a realistic timeline. A weekend, does that sound realistic to you?

Off subject:

Brothers/Babes In The Sh!t

Back in December a group of us became very close and FellOnBlackDays came up with that. There are numerous members... FOBD, 2Stepboogie, Ironman, Bolt, grr, LIS, Mj, Dixie, Rae, Zengypsy, whatsnext, and a few others that I'm sure I'm forgetting.

Open invitation man... You and Moose and whoever else are invited.

I can't believe I have been so slow to think about this. I'm in...

Honestly everyone, I'm sensing guilt from her.

Tell me what I am thinking. Quick!

If you could mind read, you would never be in this sitch. Please don't try. Why, because it doesn't matter. You goals, your actions do not change. You become the man you want to be regardless of what she is thinking. Another paraphrase that I will forget who posted "Be a man any women would be crazy to leave." That is your goal right now moose. Doesn't matter what she is thinking.


Oh, I feel better

Sorry if I came swinging too hard. I have had some built up tension, I needed a release.