Waiting equals passive. Don't wait...move. This is where you focus on doing something DIFFERENT. Anything, just do it differently...damn just do something right? Anything.
Hope is something you put deep inside, but you focus on what makes you happy. Waiting feels like eternity, but doing something makes eternity fly by. Get what I'm saying?
Faith, I'm a little confused here...are you talking about GAL stuff or are you suggesting I draw the proverbial line in the sand with her?
I posted my comment based on your "Guess I will wait and hope". Why wait? Make you the best damn you possible and move away.
I'm saying ACCEPT the fact that she is with OM. Understand that you waiting and not moving forward is counter productive. You better be GAL'ing. I hope you truly are. As far as the proverbial line in the sand, you can fix you at any point. Ultimately, you own your part of the marital disaster and you take charge in fixing your part. You don't do it as a tactic for her, you don't do it to get a reaction, you DO NOT do it to get "Look at me Honey, see how I've changed". You do it to look in the mirror and say "Damn, I'm not a bad guy after all"! If you find yourself at the point where you have to draw the line in the sand then do it, but until then don't live on what she thinks. Take a deep breath, step outside your situation, and see how she views you right now. Does she respect you....or does she seeing you doing this because you want her back?
Validate her decision, Show her you are better than THIS, Show her you are worth more. SHOW HER. Don't sit and hope, it's disgusting to a Woman. Lead. The idea is yoou flip the script....make her wonder what you are up to, make her want to be WITH you again because SHE WANTS too. Forgive and better yourself.
If she's with OM, she will not care until she see's you moving the opposite way.
Read what Sandi wrote again....move the F'n opposite direction. What YOU think is a good move, isn't.
I'm not attacking you, but you need to read Sandi and 25mlc....READ without tactic. Not a a Tactic. You have to feel it and live it.
