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So as far as attending, I say DO IT. Do the usual condolences. If it's a traditional funeral, you would have likely been sitting with the family. Considering the circumstances, you may not be asked to sit with them. Just know that could be the case. Otherwise, respectful distance but not "back of the bus".

Thank you. I will definitely be going to the service. I am not sure what to expect. He is being cremated, so it will not be a graveside service. That is all I have any experience with, so this will be new to me. I will have no expectations as to what the family will want of me. Whatever they ask.

The bad stuff came from the people who wanted me to talk to them about how I was feeling. I know these people were just trying to help, but like I said, I'm still dealing with it to this day, so I sure as sh-t didn't want to talk about it then! And I also remember a lot of people who wanted to talk about what they remembered about my mom, good memories, funny stories, that kind of thing. There were times when I wanted to hear that stuff, but there were other times when I just wanted to strangle anyone that said it.

Great post moose. A lot of good information in there for me. This part was perfect for getting a better understanding of what people want and don't want.


BTW, while typing this, W started texting me about D. We have gone back and forth a few times. I am sure it is helping her get her mind off of things.