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Tad,

My XH is the poster boy for MAD. I am a reasonable person. I know I did not do the things he alleges, or not do the things he says. We are not dealing with reasonable. Brooklyn is right. Your kids are big enough to deal with her, or not as is their choice, leaving you out of it. Yes, you have to be there for them, as someone in this scenario has to be the adult, but you need to keep distance as far as you can. The next time you find yourself picking up the phone to call, bite your dialing finger. Trust me, this actually does get better with time. Soon you won't be thinking of your W more than 1-2 times a minute. Yes, I said minute. You cannot have a R with someone for as long as we have and just brust them away like bread crumbs, never to be heard from again. BUT KNOW THIS! We may be the very bottom thing on the back of their minds, BUT WE ARE THERE. They cannot brush us away, either.

Relax, give her some space and time to actually miss you. And when she does, and she will, and calls, keep it polite but impersonal. No personal questions. Say what has to be said ( RE: kids, school ) and end the conversation. Tell her you have a cake in the oven and have to go.