My husband of 16 yrs has told me about 6 months ago that he loves me but is not in love with me. That he is not getting any younger and he wants to live his life before he dies.
I got this speach too. I also got the "I want to find someone and fall in love again(before it's too late)."
At the time I had been married 19 years.
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Around me he is so miserable it hurts me. I don't k ow how to fix this. I'm desperate!!
It does hurt to see them so miserable.
You can't fix it. It isn't about you.
Does he have legitimate complaints? Probably. We all do after so many years together.
Should you take a really good look at yourself and see what you want to change? Absolutely. This is for you though.
I know that I was not the woman I wanted to be. It took alot of soul searching to figure out what I needed to change.
At first, it's all about "fixing" the M. That's why it took me awhile to acknowledge what I needed to do for myself. I want to look in the mirror and know that I make choices out of self awareness. Not for someone else.
I know how desperate you are. I also know that if you change for him, it won't last.
What did you figure out from reading the resources Cadet posted for you?
