I could not get my XH to go to any form of counseling with me, but I went to counseling to deal with him divorcing me, and it has been a godsend. My doctor has been a counselor too and has helped me to come to terms with accepting the divorce as the best thing for me even though it happened against my wishes/will. I think any counseling is helpful, just my opinion. Good luck.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying