9 you are right the site is not about giving up, BUT I don't believe it is about unicorns and fantasies either. For some it is a way to deal with their grief and pain while accepting the end they have not yet seen for others it is a way to make the changes necessary to eventually get to piecing and to a better M. In the end though it helps us all.
I know what you mean about missing the little things, the simple pleasures of the day to day.
When I was deployed for over a year it was not the sex or the dinners or any in depth thing I misssed.
It was the smallest things I missed. The smile, the complete comfort of knowing she would be there when I came back, the silence we shared while watching a movie.
Some of us are cooked some of us aren't either way we will all be just fine at some point.
I don't know if I will ever stop missing her but I am sure WE will all make it out of this.
As for your son, it tears me up even though I don't know him. My D has said similar words to me and they make me weak in the knees.
I don't make predictions or like to give false hope where I don't see any. I must tell you that I believe your W will come around the question is where will you be when she does.
We are all in the gutter together, just some of us are looking at the stars my friend.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
