When It Rains, It Pours

[♪CS♪]

Thanks TG, it means a ton.

[Queen_of_Swords]

My sincere condolences on the loss of your father-in-law.
I pray for you and your family that this is the clue by four your wife needs to understand the fragility of life and how precious love is.

[♪CS♪]

Time for CS to sign off for the night. To say it's been a long day is, well...

I just wanted to thank everyone again for the thoughts, prayers and support.

This is truly an amazing place.

[~ kd ~]

Very sad indeed. I am thinking about you and your family.

As said, this is no longer a game. This is about one person caring about the well being of people he cares about. Not about a M certificate.

Be human. And do what YOU want. It is not for your W to deny your place in the dynamic. Just do it for YOU.

And yes, friend, not M.

[2stepboogie]

Hey Country I just read up. I am sorry for the lost. Where you guys close? I will pray for you and your W and MIL.

What TG is saying is right on.

You have offered your support and it has been denied.

You being there would prob add more stress to W.

She has asked for what she needs. "take D" and you have done so.

Be available if she needs and that is ALL you can do.

You can pay your respects at the wake/funeral but right now the family has a lot to sort out.

I know what it feels like to see the ones you love in pain and you can't do anything about it. The pain is yours also.

The only thing you can do is be a friend to offer support and shield your D from some of the chaos that will come about the next few days.

Again sorry for the delay.

Prayers going your way...................

[ninelives]

Country:

My heart goes out to you and your wife in this case. She is going through a lot of emotions. I know when my W's mom died she was actually blaming herself for putting her mom through alot in the last year with our separation.

My W, wanted me around and then didnt at times. But everytime there was a function, She wanted me there.

I made an effort everytime to be there for her and put our differences aside but there was one time when I felt an anxiety attack and had to leave. I did return but my W was very strange on a few occasions and wanted to talk about the R despite me saying that this wasnt the right time.

Also, our separtation was finished right then as well.

My point, just be there and let her dictate everything. If you need to leave because things get heavy or uncomfortable, just do it in a positive way with no conflict or anger.

Be the shining example of the strong supportive husband that she NEEDS right now but dont come on to strong and EXPECT NOTHING.

All the best Country!

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[Seminolewind]

Country I am sorry for your loss. Be the man that is strong and stable with no expectations. That is the only choice in this situation! Take care of your daughter and just be the rock.

[♪CS♪]

W said she would call this morning and I haven't heard anything yet. I am sure it was a very rough night so I don't know if she is finally sleeping or understandably has mind on other things.

I was going to wait and see if W wanted to see D today before I head home. I could understand if she did or didn't.

My guess is she needs at least another day to just deal with things.

I don't want to bug her, especially if she is sleeping, so I am tempted to just head home. I have a lot of work to do anyways...

I'm really just trying to be there for whatever she needs, without pushing my help on her.

[jbnati]

Country I just caught up. I am so sorry for your loss.

I will continue to pray for you and your family.

You are absolutely doing everything right and you're doing the best you can.

[♪CS♪]

My delema right now is I feel like I am either bugging her by calling and asking what she would like to do.

Or I ass-u-me and we know what that does.

Or I guess I can just wait...