All's well that ends . . . . . .?

[ericmsant2]

Punkin
I have not been around these neck of the woods in a long time and I just caught up on your thread.
I am soooo sorry that you are divorced now and my heart and prayers go out to you. I know that you will get through this though…get through it a much stronger person. I agree with B, you showed dignity and grace throughout this…and I believe that in the future you will reap the benefits of what you have sown.

I believe the 'could have beens' are what is haunting me at present.

These thoughts will begin to dissipate in time. Stay in the present. Everyone, you, your XH, your children, your grands, everyone….has time where they reflect on the “coulda, shoulda, woulda” stuff. Ya know what? Life Punkin is about living and learning. Learn from the mistakes that YOU made. Learn to forgive yourself. Accept that you, me, a lot of us, did the best we could with the tools we had at the time.

Punkin, he almost certainly will not be happy

IMO, when you realize that, it really does not matter as much if he is or isn’t. As a loving human being, strive to wish the best for everyone. It is much easier said then done….but the peace that comes with living this way is well worth it.

I really am trying to be brave and hold my head up high through this thing

You do not have to try – YOU HAVE ALREADY DONE IT!

God Bless,
Eric