Wow True. A year and a half and you're still in limbo?
By my own choice Tad. Yours may be different. And should be.
And it is my choice to do that. And when to move forward.
A year and half is another man's month. Or another man's two years. Or three?
Limbo is the state I define as not being M to my W physically ( not in the same place) and not being in a healthy relationship with her,
or
NOT with someone else. Because that is a possibilty too.
The absence of that is limbo for me.
It has been a long while and I am ready to move forward
hopefully without causing her pain for her choices
I cannot save her from her (i believe) inevitable regret...
I can only save me from my own.
That was the risk I felt I faced as a man posting this here.
THAT some of you (and I am not singling you out Tad) would look at Truegritter and say "why should I listen to him?"
Truth is you don't have to. My sh!t is out there and always has been for anyone to read. I am going through this along with you, Just further down the road. IS this your fate?
Only you can decide that. That is the f@cking great thing about this!
Don't do what I say or do. LEARN. LEARN your own answer. When you find it you will know.
You'll be writing these words to someone else ( if you stick around)
And all the stuff I post(and it is all true as you can witness here) and then this....
Well my brothers this is a journey and each of us has our own paths and it is different yet the same.
Can each of you say you have W that is dealing with PTSD from childhood sexual abuse?
No?
BUT
There are certain truths I have learned that DO apply to every sitch.
You will see that through my pages.
I credit that to my experience here. And the people who took time to take an interest in me.
Why?
There is NO situation. NONE. That cannot benefit from this experience if you commit yourself to it.
I once read that to be a good therapist you had to love the patient.
Not LOVE in the sense of romantic love.
Love in the sense you care about the wellbeing of another so much you want share, to help.
"for no man is an island....the bell tolls for thee."(nickel thomas paine)
I believe in that.
And
I believe I can blow bubbles with kittens in them too. (nickel DQ commercial)
Please don't mistake my humor for insincerity.
I meant and i believe with ALL my heart...
Everything up to the word "blow" up there ^^^
Kindly and humbly submitted,
Truegritter
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
