Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

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Wow Sparks! The bit about falling into the old marriage and everything being the way it was sounds very familiar. It's a very hard question to answer, but I think you handled it very well. I have been asked that question as well and I always say "I don't want the marriage that we had and I would work really hard to make sure that I didn't not make the same mistakes again."

I have started to have the same kinds of doubts. I know that I will not be able to rush back into anything with him either if that is ever an option. I know that there are things about him that will have to change as well before we will ever be able to truly have a happy marriage.

I hope things go well for you in the coming weeks. I'll keep checking back so that I can see your progress!

Thank you for stopping by, Confused423.

I do think it is important to put the old marriage to rest. It is broken. In order for my W and I to have a future together, we have to build a new marriage from the ground up. The foundation of this new marriage is critical.

I look back just five years ago on how my W and I built our relationship. I had no idea what I was doing. When we got married, I had no idea what I was doing. I never understood the great care and nourishment it takes to truly love somebody and build a healthy relationship. Maybe my W didn't either, but I cannot speak for her.

I think through reflection of the old marriage, our current positive communication, the growth of us as individuals, and the understanding that our marriage comes first, we will have the right tools to build that stronger foundation that every marriage should have.