Still trying to detach. I just read MHL's reply to tadpole and I agree that I feel worse after I've seen H (or talk to him). Nothing he says give me any comfort of closer, and I still have lots of anger. I really need to stay away for my sake. In 8 weeks I am moving back to my home town. I'm building a new house. A fresh start and I can't wait. I find when I'm back home for weekends I feel free and barely think of H. As soon as I'm back in the town we currently live in, all those angry/sad/analyzing feelings come back. I've been good though. All this week when H has called to talk to the kids, he has asked them if I want to talk to him and I've nicely said no. This is the longest we have gone without talking...in 18 years! Again, my question is, how to we help out children through this. My D(amost 10) is having a hard time. The devoted dad she knows is no longer.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
