Hi - thanks, this is really amazing, meaty stuff and it's helping me understand a little more, I think. One of the things I have truly taken away from all this is that women have no idea how much men actually listen and internalize what we say. I wish my H and I had been able to shared in a healthier way what I was frustrated with/happy with and what he was feeling/going through so that when we didn't have time to stay connected, we still understood what the other was doing/putting into the relationship.
Sorry that I have been MIA. My S is still fighting being sick, so I have either been taking care of him or catching up on sleep. I am looking forward to the day when he is past this. Poor little guy.
Ok, so OWM has been providing some pretty amazing, meaty (I laughed) stuff. The dude has things figured out and provides a great outside the box perspective. I have really enjoyed reading his posts.
I think the response from his DB coach is spot on. I think it is all about controlling push/pull behaviors. It can be pretty tough to make the decision in the heat of a moment, but it will get better with practice. You just have to eliminate the words and actions that will push him further from you.
I think you have witnessed the instances when he has followed you or investigated your feelings when you are upset. I find this very positive.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
