I have changed my outgoing voicemail message to a happier one. This and the PR fb stuff is to try and rekindle the desire which we originally had and why she fell in love with me in the first place, not to try and make her jealous.
I am not looking at the past in that if I had only done x,y,z then things could have been different etc, as I believe this is only negative and my saying to this is, if my auntie had balls then she would be my uncle. Its in the past, don't dwell on it, but use it in the future.
I have realised that I don't know what she is thinking when I thought I did, or to draw conclusions from things. MIL and FIL have stayed out of it and whilst they have enough space for her they will not put her up, maybe this is not to take sides or even that they do not agree with what she is doing!
I have now started the NC/LC route, but do I ignore everything or respond to questions of the kids etc? (I have just responded to her last text, kids are fine). I think she sent me a text at 9pm on Sat night as she thought I was out on the town and was thinking about me. When she spoke to S today she asked what I had been up to and if I was OK!
The big question now for the NC/LC theory is, do I move out (as my best mate has given me a key to his place) from Thursday when she is back to go down the NC route, or stay at home being "professional" only following the LC route, with us both seeing each other and staying at friends a few days each etc until she can rent somewhere? I think I need to do the NC route and give it 3 weeks? This way she will also be at home with the kids and will only have her thoughts etc without me around.
W is still doing the laundry for me atm, but I think if I move out for a while I will tell her I will do it.
Part of me says she has chosen this path, she must do it alone, part thinks to get her out ASAP and help her so she can miss me (but she will be tied to 6 month rental contract then), but other parts say, she has chosen to do this, it your house (family home) why should I leave and if I do does that give her more control over the house etc (I pay all of the house bills etc and always have) worst case scenario.
We were like best friends and talked a lot, but obviously not on the right things. I do not want to be her friend if we are not together in a R. I know she will want me to set up the TV, internet etc etc when she gets her place but will not be taken down that road.
Yes, the R was pretty crappy in the last few months especially, which I am honest about, but I love her and do not want to just chuck 16 years away.
I am so confused what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
