I'm sooo sorry for what you had to go through, I'm dreading my day also even more now. I don't know how they can get on the stand and lie like they do!
I'm praying for you, and just remember when he is done with his OW and wants to come home some day because I really think he will want to, tell him too late.
Sending so many (((HUGS))). Hang in there, you are one tough cookie, a lot tougher than I am and you can do this...