He chose me, he chose to stay. Yet he was still wrestling to fully end it. I still don't know when it fully ended. The date seems to move around. He "can't remember" when it ended. It's that deception that still has me on guard.
Yes, he DID choose you. Sometimes you have to open yourself up to potential hurt in order to advance.....and that means trying to trust as much as you are able to - even when that is going against your instincts....because he CHOSE YOU! I know just how hard that is ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))).
As regards the deception due to when you feel the actual end date was, and you H's inability to be accurate, I would say that my H also wouldn't really be able to give a clear date. Probably because to begin with he tried to be 'nice' and end it without any bad feeling for OW - ha, ha {eye roll} . Then later on I think his memory did get really hazy about the whole thing because he was embarrassed and just wanted to forget it all, whereas for me every detail was seared in my brain.
It IS early days still. Don't beat yourself up.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
