OMW - that is eerily like some convos H and I have had. I've also shut him off when he gets critical and he's really been a lot more positive and caring after 1-2 convos like that.
Think through her criticisms and see if there are grains of truth or takeaways in any of it. I've been in a much different place with my kids because of H's actions. Sometimes I am more lenient because I do want them to be happy or I just don't have the energy to be "on" all the time. So, I'm not saying what you are doing is wrong - I think it is good you are being caring and attentive with all the craziness going on. But regardless of how this goes, you guys will want to be open about addressing any parenting concerns the other has. (agree that she's prob just tantruming out of jealousy)
One possible idea for mother's day would be to throw 2 movie vouchers in a mother's day card. (Is that rewarding her tantrum or showing you listen/don't just dismess her concerns? You'll have to think that through)
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
