I know exactly what you mean about missing your W. At least in my case, I always thought that he didn't help me at all, but now that he's gone, I realize that he helped alot more than I thought.
Now, I have to handle my D, keep the house clean, AND take care of the yard. I'm not working right now, so that has helped with the transition. I'm really afraid I'm going to fall over when I have to go back to work AND do all of the stuff around the house.
I miss HIM too. I agree with Country - it's about missing your life partner and you really do not know what you have until it's gone.
I understand how it is with your S because my D is going through the same thing and she doesn't even know about OW. I can't imagine what it would be like if she did. My heart goes out to you on that note.
Keep your chin up...I think you are working through alot of your anger and you are getting better at interacting with your W.
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11