Had an interesting IM conversation with W last night. I *think* I did alright, though I suspect W was upset at the end.
Preface: W was responding to a treadmill question I made the day before and my mom died a month ago...
W: to your run question- about a 5 k but I walked some. Once I get new shoes I want to do a 5 k with you. I guess running outside would be step 1
me: congrats! outside is different, and a 'real' race is even more different, just the atmosphere of it and all. walking is fine, I walked short distances on my last race and still did well
W: I wanted to make sure you wanted to do [beer dinner] on Sat instead of Sunday. I though you might want company on Sunday?
me: thanks for the thought, I understand I told MIL and FIL that I'd do some work for them Sunday. In a way, it's like spending time with my surrogate mom that day
W: I should have guessed. K
and that was that. W and her mom haven't been speaking much, MIL has been somewhat critical of her D's choices, and neither of them are willing to reach out to the other.
The obvious good is that she wants to start running with me (well, at least a race) and that she cared enough to spend time with me on Mother's Day. The not so obvious good is that I didn't revert to previous behaviour. Before, I would have said 'sure, lets do Sunday' and then tried to rearrange everything for W. I'm sure my ILs would be fine with either day, but that's no longer the point. I have plans and if W is angry about that it really isn't my problem to fix.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
