Looking back at my sit, there were times when I was trying so hard to follow DB principles that I now know my STBX took me as being uncaring and cold. So, accepting his ride is not a mistake in my opinion. The mistake would be in trying to "take" more than just that or trying to pressure him in any way. Let him come to you, but don't push him away or pull him in. I only wish I had really understood that concept a long time ago.
