You have some great boundaries calystra! I also think your near term plans are good and reasonable. I know in my case the ADs helped 'take off the edge' as I also had suffered from low level depression for years. I hope they help (should you go that route).
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
