I figured out why I am having so much problems deciding on what I know I need to do. Neither of us want to let each other go and I am sure we both do not want to face the loneliness after a separation and neither are we ready to go thru 'selling the house' deal. I am prepared to offer h to live as room mates. That way, I am still in his life yet I can go on and have a full life. Does anyone think this will work out?