As Telemark said, your P is in another galaxy right now. He is buzzing from this new affair and nothing you can say or do can change that. He seems to be having a major MLC and will need to work through it at his own pace. You just have to leave him to it.
The OW sounds like a complete wierdo / control freak and once their honeymoon period is over I would not be surprised if one or both of them call it quits and gets out.
In the time that it takes for this to happen - if it happens - you need to take control of your life, GAL, get strong. If / when your P returns YOU will be to be the one who decides whether you can try again. Following db'ing will help you achieve this.
FF999
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11
