OnMyWay: to who knows where?

[OnMyWay]

After AJM80 & 9's 2x4, I got back to my old self and remembered how much fun DBing can be when I'm at my prime. And I got an earful tonight!

WAW was over when I got home. I didn't feel like cooking and I didn't have any groceries anyway, so I decided we would go out to eat and invited W along. She accepted. Then, it started:

First she pointed out there was a stain on my shirt. Then she complained I'm spoiling my D. She complained I take D to all the good movies. She complained she wants to take D to movies, but doesn't have any money. She complained D & I are too buddy-buddy and I'm too soft as a parent. She complained about what I post on facebook that D can see. Etc., Etc., Etc. I actually rather enjoyed myself. It was all funny to me.

When we got home, she put D to bed, then asked about our D's friends parents and their sitch, which I tell her, and is then critical of me for making assumptions about them based on our sitch. I explained I wasn't basing it on our sitch at all, but on the body of research I have done on the topic because of our sitch. She got snippy at which point, I spoke up and said, "Well, you have leave to go study and I have to get back to the work I was doing, so I'll excuse myself. Have a good night." I'm just not gonna put up with her constant critique and negativity.

She was obviously offended and got up to walk out. As she left, she did something unexpected. She said, "I'm sorry you hate me so much." I was actually caught off guard. I informed her I most certainly do not hate her and I was sorry she feels that way, but I wasn't about to sit around arguing with her over topics that are insignificant and listening to her being constantly critical of me. I did mess up at one point and asked her if the grass was greener now that she's gone. All she could say is she's a lot more calm now. Really? This is your calm? Ok. Glad your gone, then, jeez (I didn't say this, but I did think it. LOL). She did get in a "I miss my kid a lot more than I miss you" jab. Good on her.

Anyway, there'll be a lot for her to chew through if she wants. I did mention in a text volley after that I was sorry she felt I hate her, when I do not and that this is still not what I want, etc., etc. and that I am simply moving boldly forward with my life, with or with out her. She said I sounded like a Star Trek episode.

I think the topic of the other couple and some choices the other WAW is making strike a little too close to home. She seems fixed on some sort of idea that is must be all the H's fault and he has driven her to do these things. I think she is drawing the comparisons to our sitch and not liking what she is seeing and is blaming me as if I am pointing out these comparisons. That's for her to figure out, not my problem.

As for me? I going to bed with a clean conscious. I feel good again. Tomorrow is a new day!