18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[OnMyWay]

OMW - think about whether it would help your situation with W to let her know that what she thinks and says to you has registered and did matter. I don't mean a big convo or anything, more just showing the little things.

Funny you mention this, as I dealt with this tonight. I'll not hijack your thread, however.

What do you guys suggest doing when that dance thing is going on - like H is very chatty, very interested in spending time with us, then he pulls it back and is less responsive. I don't think I should go dark or anything that extreme...building good times, showing positive time together is possible, etc seems to be working towards something good.

I've found when this happens and we've had a good night or my W puts herself out there too far and I anticipate she'll do the dance, I go dark first and become lax in my responses until I can tell she "feels safe" again, then get back at it. I've good luck with that. Definitely let him set the pace. With a WAH, the whole Mars/Venus thing seems to fit. Let him go into his cave and sweat it out. When he comes back, you act "as-if" nothing happened.