My H and I have completely seperate accounts. Mine in a bank and he has his burried in our yard and around the house as he went bankrupt in 2007 and refuses to use a bank account since out of fear of people taking past debts out. Crazy - I know.
When he left me back in '07 he had 20 grand or so and he dug it up and took it with him. This time around he has about 26 grand and dug it up and took it with him.
I am on unemployment as a laid off teacher and I have just enough in my accounts to get by.
We were allready legally seperated back in '07, and even though he returned to me for 3 years, I do believe the legal seperation would still count now, as we never renewed our vows.
Back then, my Lawyer told me I would probably get nothing out of him if he wanted a Divorce due to the nature of our work and accounts.
I feel pretty protected this time around. The house and my Jeep are in my name. Now all I need is a Job - and soon.
I bought the one day at a time book from alanon, and plan to also get the other book you mentioned at meeting tomorow.
H came in house tonight while I was gone to get some items. He didnt take any thing shared as far as I can see. What a relief, last time he took my Dog and lots of our nicest shared stuff.I was actually surprised he only took a few things to get by, not even a quarter of his wardrobe, and he left his drum set too which he loves.
Went bowling tonight, it was fun and helped me get mind off things and breath.
My dad said to me tonight: Honey, he just doesnt want to be with you right now, he doesnt know what he wants, let him go. It really struck home when my father said it, its like a switch went off in my head and I am starting to accept it all over again. Still dont really know about what to do with the "sober up or else Speach", if he did return (use it or not????). For now, I will be patient, I will stand, And I will focus on me. TIPPER
