Well he told me he will not go to counseling some one can not help him to love me when he does not. He said how do you think I feel when I do not love my wife.
Yes we are in the same house up until the end of March I was the bread winner in the house. I lost my job and then he tells me this like 2 weeks later.
The problems that we had back in July was that he was not happy. I think this was because he became friends with one of his sisters girl friends. She would txt him sexual jokes non stop and flirt with him all the time. My H is a big flirt with every one. Well I found out that around Christmas time they meet at a bar for a holiday drink I was very upset as I do not know this person well. I told him the issue that I had and was told that I need to drop it nothing was going on. I also found out that he would tell people not to txt him when I got home from work because I would lose my mind with his phone going off non stop. Well the icing on the cake in July was another female friend of his that I do not know well txt him on our way home from a weekend out with the family camping and wants a motor cycle ride. He tells her ok and I was fine with this. How ever I also wanted to go for a ride that day. Well she winds up changing the time like 4 times. When they did go they did not come back right away was gone for an hour or so. I get a txt from him that he is at the bar with her I could come up if I want.
Well now we have an old school friend that he has been going out with almost every Friday and yes she is female. They meet up with other high school friends and hang out. I have been invited and have gone a few times but I don't care for these friends of his. I have even shown up with out him knowing I was coming and I do not think they have any thing going on. I do think she is the one pushing this though.
So that is how we are here again I asked him if something was going on with this one. I had asked him this with the other 2 and he said no. I told him that I am sorry but what should I think you do not talk to me or want me around you have pushed me away. I asked him how he would feel. He tells me that I did push him away and yes I did but it was so that I could make money for the family. I was at work not out with friends drinking. I told him I know now that I put my job first and I am very sorry for that. I missed my kids growing up because we chose for me to work. I worked all kinds of hours and his mother took care of them until he got home and he would then take over. I told him that I do not feel as stressed now because I do not have to stress over my job any more. That I know that I was crabby and will not be as stressed now. All he will say is people don't change. I should have never let you back last time.
I know that he like's the house to be clean but I told him I think that I was not doing it to get his attention. He said well you got it are you Happy that it ended you M.
