I started a new thread because some new things have happened...
I went out Saturday night with friends to a town that didn't have any cell service. When I looked at my phone I saw that I had missed some texts and calls from my XH at around 1am. It was weird because he never contacts me in the middle of the night. So, he calls me the next day and proceeds to tell me I was right all along about his OW. Apparently she wasn't a 30 yr old single woman with no family... she's actually 42, married for over 20 years, has 3 grown children and a grandson... and had even made up her name. He called me to tell me I was right and that it was totally over with her (I would hope so) and that he was broken hearted. I told him that I felt terrible for him and that it was a horrible thing to have happened, which I totally meant. He then told me that he loved me and would be willing to try again if I were to take care of my mental issues (I was diagnosed with situational depression a few years ago and he thinks it's back and that I display symptoms of adult ADHD which is probably true) and if I were to get a grip on my lack of housekeeping skills. It was his weekend with the kids, but he ended up bringing them home early so we could all hang out. He walked in and just came to me and asked for a hug and then started crying on my shoulder and clinging to me... he didn't really say much other than to elaborate on what had happened. We went out and he was quiet and lost in thought most of the time. I haven't talked to him much since then.
Um... what just happened here? I don't know what to think. On the one hand he told me he loved me and told me what I needed to do for him to come home. On the other hand... he's mourning the loss of this relationship and reeling from the fact that he fell for her lies and told everyone they were wrong when it was pointed out to him.
What the heck do I do now? My plan is to just keep on with my life and to wait and see what happens next. That doesn't really help the WTH feelings going on inside though. I feel so, so, so confused. Do I just let it go and chalk it up to him feeling bad about what happened? He said he's been telling me all along what I needed to do, but I've been ignoring him and it's made him feel like I was giving him a big "FU" and doing it to show him I didn't have to listen to him.
What next?
Me 34 H 37 M 12/97 H moved out 03/09 D 05/10 S 17 D 12 S 11
