Well it has been awhile since I posted last so I thought I would update. OW has moved to town and H has now moved in with her. I have ended his every other weekend stays with D16 here at the house by her request. We went about 2 months w/o any R talk, but when I told him about D16 request, we talked more about the why he left. He just continues to bring up things he has done for me and how I never did anything. Basically rewriting history again. D16 is appalled by this as she does not remember things the way he does. You know all the things he says he did for me were part of being married, working together as a team and family. I know this is his MLC talking, but it hurts that he doesn't recognize any of the things I did for him. Needless to say, I have started packing all of his stuff up and putting it down in the basement. I am preparing to change the locks on the house. I am trying to do some home repairs in preparation of selling the house. The job I thought I had did not pan out so I am still looking for work.
I am still standing for my marriage, but I have decided to live as if he will never come back. I am keeping my focus on God and realize I can be happy single and being a mom. I actually love not having to worry about H right now and just focus on me and D16. She is so mature for her age and is really working though this, though she has refused to meet OW. I have talked to her about this and her R with her dad. I have told her it was okay to meet her and it was ok to like her. Her father's decisions do not have to mess up their relationship if she could learn to forgive him. She says she is not ready for that right now, and still feels OW took her place and doesn't want to meet her. So, it is what it is and now H does not have any weekend visits with her. He hasn't spoken to her since Sat. night and I am sad for her. I prayed he wouldn't take her decision so personally, but I guess he has. He was such a good father and now he [censored] at it and it makes me want to throw up! REALLY!!!!
The rain in our area has been really bad, and my basement has flooded many times, and it is frustrating that H is not here to help me with it. I did have a contractor out to give me an estimate on getting it fixed. We are talking around $20,000. I don't have that kind of money. Maybe after I get a job I can work out a payment plan or something. I just don't know right now, but basically my basement walls are buckling in and causing separation at the floor joints.
Blessings to all!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
