I am so sorry. What area of the world do you live in?
What is he thinking? Well you are a great catch, that's why he did whatever it took to land you. (pls excuse the fishing metafore). Now it's been awhile that he's been able to do what he want's and without apparent punishment. So he's living large and doing what he want's with a wife that he can brag about (you're the great catch) and that he's 'the man' and doesn't have to do squat. This is what's in his head. I presume that you are a very accomidating lady that tries to keep him happy (with a goal of him returning the favor).
He won't.
I am very concerned about the statement that after the 'one-minute' session...it's all over. Is he aware that actual penetration is a very small part of sex? Oh geesh! He should be all over you like wet on a frog, so fully enjoying you and pleasuring you that the one minute issue is actually a relief! Making love to you every part of you, taking care of you should be his goal. And if he releases during, so what, he should keep on keeping on.... by him stopping after climax tells me that sex and life are all about him, Not you or both of you.
He has long separated his physical self from this situation. I am very sorry. Don't know why women put up with this.
A couple of questions: Have you met someone yet? Often the need to fish or cut bait is noticed when my passion rises...