Thanks. Yes, I have tried that, all of it. He is a wonderful lover when he use to last more than one minute. That was over three years ago. He says he is very, very sensitive to my touch. And he is right, We have tried prolonging foreplay, oral this and that and the other thing, and the result is he will ejaculate without me. So, then I am left totally out! Even if we kiss, which kissing is not something I do with him too often because it will make him also ejaculate without me.
LL, I had stopped my hobbies one time before and then came up with the idea that if I started back doing the things I like then he would have to wonder with whom and where I am doing it. He whined about it, claim he will try to do more with me and then changes my agenda by wanting me to do only those things he likes to do... riding in the car. I thought to myself, okay, we will do it his way, we will ride in the car, and go to his favorite bbq place and I worked up a major excitement about it and you know what happens, when we get to the restaurant he wants to eat in the car! I believe he has social phobia. I finally told him that I was going to find someone to satisfy me and do things with me and he can handle himself the way he wants to. That bothered him but he is not concerned anymore because I haven't really been going anywhere, yet. I can't just sleep with someone I am not attracted to, so I am meeting people and if someone should fall in to that category, I am there. I am hurt because I believe now the realization is that this is the way my husband is, and only one thing or the other will happen, either I conform to the couch potato non-active spouse he wants in which I will die in side or I will be going through the hell of tearing my family apart.
Hilljohn, I am trying not to believe that he lied to me to get what he wanted... I have always felt that way inside. He doesn't realize he is stealing my life. What do you think he is thinking now?
