The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[Denver_2010]

I think Starsky was spot on with his advice. There are many on these posts that have grown to admire you Denver and the way you have fought for your marriage.

There is a fine line between being a doormatt and being compasionate for what she is going through.

I was and still have anger for what she did, but I am also understanding that my wife is not well and has made some very poor decisions.

If what you say is true about you being a bit of a jerk throughout the marriage ( and I cant believe that is as bad as you say), a few months of change may not be enough to convince her or make up for years of neglect.

Patience, Patience Patience.

Just keep your head on straight, be aware of all possibilities and dont Kiss her A$$. She will not respect that.

All the best Denver. YOU KNOW we are all pulling for you.

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Thanks for the support Nine. I don't know. I was pretty bad for the majority of our R. I won't go into the specifics again right now, but I can definitely see that I caused my W some serious emotional trauma. I see it clear as day now. So I think that you are correct that a few months is not enough for her to trust my changes. Problem is, is that I don't know if ANY amount of time will be enough... and neither does she.

So at what point does patience equate to wasting my life away?

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