The Roller Coaster Keeps on Rolling

[Denver_2010]

I assume from your name that you are somewhere near Denver. Why not book some time with Michelle Weiner-Davis? I've heard that she is absolutely fabulous.

Looked into that, but can't really afford to do that. She's like $5k per day. Even if W thought that she was in a place to continue with MC right now, I doubt that she'd let me/us spend that much on it.

Your wife is waiting for Cupid to hit her with an arrow, or for the stars to align, or some other outside force to grab her and tell her what she wants in life.

Absolutely she is. She's even told me that she's keeps expecting some sort of sign that tells her what the right thing is for her to do.

She needs to spend some time in a positive structured way to look inward and see what she wants. Love doesn't come from the outside. It is a decision. Waiting around for a decision to happen to you is not the way it works.

I agree with you 100%. Don't think that W is seeing it that way right now. She needs to spend time processing her feelings... structured or unstructured. She is one of the busiest people that I have ever known. And over the past 3 months, she has spent all of her free time with me. So, as she has explained to me, she needs to give herself time to process her feelings. She hasn't said this, but I think that she is looking to the end of her school year, i.e. her summer months off from teaching, to do this. Or at least that is what she is hoping she can do.

Her statement that things will 'sort themselves out' has me perplexed though. I just don't view life that way... as if, like you said, some magical bullet just hits us with the correct answer to our questions.

Of course, I recommend Retrouvaille. But I know your wife works weekends and won't give up a weekend for something else.

I know that you do Lotus. She agreed to do it in March, but we couldn't find a weekend where one or the other of us didn't have to work. We were going to look at the schedule again and find something in the late summer or early fall. But we don't appear to be on that track now.

Thanks Lotus.