I know it will get better. But man, getting there isn't easy. Still, cherish every glimmer of happiness, and yes--you gotta force yourself to do things that will help, because man, you won't want to do 'em and you'll be convinced they won't help, because surely nothing will help.

But things help. As everyone is saying--rekindle old friendships, make new ones, work out, stay busy. Amusingly the activity helping me most right now--COMPLETELY out of character--is getting involved with social/ballroom dancing, which sounds pretty silly... but you know, going to a "town hall" dance with an evening of non-flirtation dancing, laughing, platonic touching (it's amazing how nice just simple human contact is), etc lifted my spirits tremendously for a few days.

Then I got an email from my STBX and it crushed me again frown but the memory of a happy day without her really does act like fuel (we haven't even started legal proceedings but I can't see avoiding them).