WAW in Los Angeles

[wawinla]

S2 and GB90:

Thanks for regularly responding...very much appreciated.

S2...I apologize, I don't understand your question? I believe if I reach out to my wife, she would see it as pursuing, since I'm not respecting her wishes.

GB90...I concur with your read. When we've communicated, it's clear that my WAW has done major convincing/rationalization on her part with no deep thought into the practical/financial issues.

My WAW called me yesterday. She asked about practical things (e.g., a friend of hers is doing some contracting work on the house), no discussion about D settlement. She wanted to know my Mother's Day plans, since was under the impression that my mother didn't know yet about the D. After she served me, we waited to tell my mom since she was undergoing a surgical procedure. Since my WAW has been busy with her new life, I went ahead and told my mom on my own. Upon hearing the news, my WAW said "why didn't you tell me, so I didn't have to think about telling your mom?"

I take this as my WAW is still on her timeline/checklist with no emotions and as you mentioned GB90...just need to keep going with GALing. And when WAW gets back to me about the D settlement, will deal then.

I've been doing a lot of self-improvement reading. I know that whatever happens, I'll be able to apply the insights I've learned. It's just sad that I don't have the opp to apply in my M, at least for the near future.