I am gonna stop with the ILY's she's heard it often enough now and I know it probably does more harm than good.
We had a brief chat last night, face-to-face. She had taken my car keys by mistake and I couldn't leave 'til she came home.
We talked about the sitch with D13 & also S17 and she was very defensive about the whole thing. She reckons that niether of them are at all interested in being a family or sharing family time with her, that they don't appreciate what she does for them and she feels that they are as much to blame for this as her.
I empathised but said that WE are their parents. WE have a responsibilty to them like it or not and that I was as much too blame for this sitch as her - in some respects, probably more so.
W then came out with something that made me bite my tongue. She complained that she felt that she had no time for herself. WTF!! This is someone who seems be out socialising constantly. She recently went to Tenerife for a week with a friend, goes to the gym, pole dancing lessons, zumba classes, goes out walking, meals out with friends, and has just taken up golf & tennis, and of course still has time to see OM. What more does she want to do???
And her solution to this conundrum was - wait for it - for me to give up my shoebox room near to work ( 75miles away ) and to move back home to look after the kids. This would give me an average working day of btwn 14-15hrs. While she then moves out to give her a break..... Yeah Right!!!!
I promised to consider this but having done that kind of cr*p for years and the effect that it had on me/us & our marriage it is just NOT an option.
Sorry had to vent that. BTW I will be making arrangements for D13 to stay with me on weekends either in my shoebox or off on trips somewhere. This should help alleviate some of the pressure
FF999
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11
